Chatting on FB with my best friend today.
We are almost so similar is creeps me out.
We got on the topic of dating, (what a surprise, I know) and how we have very similar dating pasts.
We both tend to go for the “safe zone” type of guys, rather than the ones who we know we SHOULD go for, but choose not to.
Why is it we always stay in our comfort zones? Is it some weird defense mechanism to not getting hurt? Never allowing someone to get too close to where you actually feel something?
If I knew those answers, I would not be asking them. When I figure it out though, I will make sure to blog about it as well.
Another thing my BFFF and I chatted about was how break ups. Is it okay to break up with someone because you can’t see it going anywhere?
I feel like it’s a gut feeling sort of dilemma.
If you are dating someone, but you can’t see it going anywhere, you almost end up leading the other person on while you make up your mind.
If you see red flags, or sense that it just won’t work down the road…why keep it up?
I feel like when you know it isn’t right you KNOW…just like when you know you’ve met the right person you, somehow, just know.
It is some weird intuition we have inside of us to know whether a relationship with a certain person has a future…or not.
When I get that “this isn’t going anywhere” feeling, I tend to make a big deal out of nothing to cause a break up.
Horrible… I know, right?
I think I do that because the justification of “I just don’t see US working” is not good enough for some people.
Some people need a more “legit” reason. So, I create one.
My friend on the other hand tells it how it is. Justifiable to the other person or not.
Not sure which is a better solution…I suppose it depends on the other person and how sensitive they are to break ups.
I guess dating is just one of those things we will never fully understand…
One day both me and my best friend will find true love.
However, until then, we will confide in each other when it comes to dating drama and girly emotions, since we are so similar in both.
Just another reason why I love her.